Blocking behaviors keeping stress alive

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Blocking behaviors keeping stress alive

by Fiona Taylor

There are three obsessive behaviors that you are likely to be engaging in that impede your healing process and stop you from enjoying a stress-free life. Being able to recognize is a great first step towards ridding yourself of the problems that go with being too stressed. If you have hobbies already, such as <a href="http://document-creator.com">creative writing</a> these might have staved off your anxiety in the past, but might not be effective now because of the blocking behaviours.

Obsessive negativity is the first one, and when you are obsessively negative you can be down on places, situations, people and things in your everyday life, and it becomes a habit.

You might you find yourself saying things to yourself like "I never do this right" or "No one understands!" or "People always do things to deliberately annoy me", for example. You may be doing this unconsciously, but essentially you have what's known as a "sour grapes" attitude, and it holds you back from knowing what it's like to view life through a positive lens and enjoy the beauty in yourself and people around you! The world looks different with happiness and positive thinking.

Obsessive perfectionism sets you up against impossibly high standards, either your own, or some external pressure such as what you think your friends will think, or your boss. If it's your own standards, you may consider yourself a failure if you don't achieve them; if they're your perceived standards from other people then you may think that you'll make them mad by falling short. This type of behaviour is sometimes difficult to identify as we all tend to want to do a good job. It's recognizing whether holding yourself to the standards is causing you stress if you don't meet up to them.

Finally there is obsessive analysis. When analysis becomes your obsession you find yourself wanting to re-hash a task or an issue over and over again. For instance, you might find yourself making statements such as, "I need to know this like the back of my hand or things might go wrong" or "If I relax and let things go without looking them over repeatedly, things go wrong".

Obsessive analysis goes beyond analytical thinking into an unhealthy thought pattern. The thoughts about the process block thoughts in other areas of your life, and prevent you from relaxing. Recognising this is sometimes challenging as there is the tendency to believe that you are just analysing a process, as opposed to obsessing over it.

Don't go rushing off to find a <a href=" http://clinicalconsultant.net/choosing-a-medical-or-clinical-consultant/">medical consultant</a>. If you have already identified blocking behaviours, the first step is to consult your friends and family to get any feedback from them. It will help them if you explain what the blocking behaviour types are so that they can give you a critique based specifically on those things (as opposed to trivialities such as your dress sense!

You will need to approach this with an open mind because the truth can hurt, but this is the quickest way of finding out whether others see you differently to how you expect them to see you. The insights you gain can be used to actively change how you deal with life.

Another technique to identify issues is to keep a diary and note down what you do and when you feel anxious. There are many different triggers for anxiety, and diary will allow you to go back over several weeks and look for patterns.

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